End of maternity is nearing…

I know everyone says it, but really…How fast does maternity leave go!!? The 9 months of pregnancy seems to drag on as if you’ve been pregnant for years! Yet the 9 months of your new life with baby here whizzes by in what feels like minutes! 

I can’t quite believe on the 11th October my baby is 9 months old and suddenly not so baby anymore! I feel so extremely lucky and privileged to have been able to spend every waking minute (and there are a lot of awake times and very little sleep times!!) with Spencer during his first 9 months of life. 

Although I have LOVED my new life it also seems to be one big blur! Looking back on photos now I am suddenly reminded of all the times we’ve had that I have since forgotten about! Some memories at the time I thought would scar me for life and I would never forget! It’s funny how those memories disappear from your mind and all you are left with is the fun, laughs and special bonding moments you’ve had. The ‘oh my god is this really my life’ ‘I don’t want to be full time Mum anymore, get me back to work!!’ moments just vanish!

It seems almost unfair and cruel that just as you get to the ‘easier’ stage it’s time to go back to work. You’ve done the hard part of sleepless nights, reflux, constant feeds, vaccinations, transferring baby to his own room, starting the weaning process just generally not really knowing what you are doing and basically winging it! To actually ‘yea Iv got this’ you know what baby wants most of the time now, he’s eating well, he’s entertaining himself, he’s sleeping through the night (who would have ever thought!!).. so now is the time to actually really start enjoying it. Get baby to some clubs now he’s more alert, get those house bits done you thought you would have done months ago while baby plays happily watching you… just enjoying some quality time with baby now you’ve both ‘found your place’. 

But no… suddenly you’ve got the hard part done you’re just starting to really enjoy time with baby feeling a million times more relaxed and BAM maternity leave it over. 

This, in my eyes is the hardest decision any parent faces. Most of us have no choice but have to keep earning some kind of money now maternity pay is finished. Firstly it’s the whole ‘is there any point going back full time to just spend anything I earn on childcare’ then this opens your eyes to the fact that actually you are just going to work to pay for someone else to spend all day with your child and that grates on you! Then you start questioning yes I would like some adult company again and getting back to doing something other than changing nappies and making funny faces/voices at your baby to entertain them. But then actually I quite like my days being silly with little one and would I just miss him everyday I’m not with him. Iv worked so hard to get to where we are now.. I don’t want to risk missing anything! His first steps, his first word (I am still pretending Dada is just a syllable he has learnt and Muma will actually be the first word 😉) there is so much to miss! 

The conclusion… I still don’t know where I am and where I am going!! I am trying so hard to just enjoy where I am now but in the back of my mind I know I need to start earning some £££ very soon!! Fortunately, I am very lucky to hopefully be able to go part time getting a healthy balance of the two! However, this horrid decision you are faced with at the end of your maternity leave in my eyes is one of the hardest parts of parenting yet!! Talk about a smack back to reality!!!

Keep Calm and Carry On Linking Sunday
My Petit Canard

 

16 thoughts on “End of maternity is nearing…

  1. “The 9 months of pregnancy seems to drag on as if you’ve been pregnant for years! Yet the 9 months of your new life with baby here whizzes by in what feels like minutes!” – YES, Why?! I don’t get it.

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  2. Oh man, you hit the nail right on the head about time speeding up once your baby is born. I mean, it literally BLOWS my mind how quickly time flies now that I am a mother. It’s been 18 months since my son was born, and I still find myself talking about and reminiscing about his birth like it was yesterday!!

    Going off maternity leave is DEFINITELY one of the hardest decisions as a mother. Thankfully, I’ve been able to stay home with my son this whole time, I truly just could not imagine having to leave him. I hope you find something that works for your family!! Thanks so much for sharing ❤ #KCACOLS

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    1. Thank you for the comment! I know exactly what you mean when you talk about reminiscing I do this all the time too! It goes too fast I’m glad you get to spend the whole time with your son it goes too quickly to leave them!!

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  3. My 12 weeks of maternity leave went by like nothing. Going back to work of the scariest things for me but it had to be done and after a while it gets easier. Hang in there mama. #KCACOLS

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  4. Oh I remember that feeling so well. I was really lucky after having my son and was able to go back part time, and it worked really well for us. Hope it all goes smoothly for you, whatever you decide to do. x #KCACOLS

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  5. it’s tough going back to work for sure. But after the first few weeks you find a routine. And over a few months it becomes normal. I work 3 extended days and my daughter is in nursery. She actually loves it which made it easier for me to work. Of course the settling took a few weeks (which I did before going back so I didn’t have that extra stress at work!) but after that, the interaction with other children is great fun for them. So if you decide to go back, know it will be okay and you will all adjust to your new life structure. Good luck deciding and enjoy the rest of Mat Leave. #KCACOLS

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  6. I am fortunate enough I only have to go back part time, but not so fortunate i can stay home, i wish! It actually makes me feel very sad to realise I’m going back to work this Sunday, the day my baby turns 9 months exactly 😦 xx #kcacols

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  7. I know exactly how you feel. I was like this when I had to return to work after I had my eldest. He was such a joy to be around and things were getting easier and he was sleeping through etc etc.

    It’s tough but it does get better – I promise. It was so nice to have adult conversation and to be able to have a proper adult lunch! Wishing you all the best of luck with it. X

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back again on Sunday.

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  8. Sucks, doesn’t it! Sadly, my 10 month old wasn’t sleeping through the night very often so I still had to go to work and wake in the night with him. Tough times. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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  9. I know exactly what you mean and it is just so unfair! I enjoyed a lot when I become a SAHM so I was able to be more with my girls although lately, things have changed and I’m now working full time but doing what I love and on my own time which is much better than before. It is a difficult transition I know but as all, you will get used to it, I promise. Wish you luck in this new phase. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. Glad to have you for the first time. I hope that you like it. Just one thing. Please do not forget to comment the post before yours. Apologies if you have done it and perhaps your comment has not been approved but I can’t see it there yet. Thanks in advance lovely, 🙂 xx

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    1. Glad to hear you’re enjoying what you do now and it is all worked out well for you. Such a hard thing to have to do! Thank you for having me! Iv loved reading other people’s blogs from it too. Oh how strange, I have commented on the previous one and a few others too xx

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      1. Hi Laura, I have just realised what the problem was. I can now see your comment but I didn’t know it was you until now because you didn’t put the hashtag. Sorry about that. Thank you lovely, 🙂 xx

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