So Iv said it a thousand times and il say it again, having a baby is THE BEST thing ever!! There is no better feeling in the world than having that tiny bundle of joy (and sometimes not so joyful!) in your arms. You learn to love so much more than you ever knew possible. You learn just how strong and amazing you really are! 💪🏻 You feel extremely proud every time you look at your bubsy (well, almost every time!) You have this bond like no other – it’s just the best in too many ways to explain!
However, (Debbie downer) this best thing ever doesn’t come without its difficulties. All of course difficulties or sacrifices you are more than willing to take for your little person completely reliant on you.
I think the main thing to remember when having a baby is this baby now comes first. He/she is now your main priority. Obviously this doesn’t mean you forget everyone and everything else around you. For me, it is a different kind of priority/love, not necessarily a bigger priority or a stronger love… just a different kind.
A few ‘difficulties’ ‘changes’ ‘sacrifices’ whatever you may call them I have come across so far:
You soon begin to realise you can’t attend every social event you’re invited too or want to go too! – Yes it is gutting but the people that matter will understand and you need to remember it’s not forever!!
The housework isn’t so important! A bit of dust never killed anyone! In fact, there is such thing as too clean!
Your maintenance… for example and in my case, nails! My nails are always chipped and shapeless all the time now! Another example is brows… I rarely get to have them tinted anymore so half the time they are non existent!
Healthy living… Yes healthy eating is possible with a baby as is working out but it is so much more difficult with a baby!! Not only is it difficult finding the time to prepare nice healthy meals/snacks and work out but it’s a lot of effort! When you’re up at 5am every morning of the week (gone are the weekend lie ins!) then full on most of the day entertaining baby you need all the energy you can get! In my eyes that mars bar is going to give me more energy than the apple 😉 and that ‘just 20 mins HIIT workout’ could be 20 mins of finally sitting down and having a cuppa to recuperate!
There are many changes and sacrifices I have made to my life since having Spencer. Although sometimes a little difficult, they have done me the world of good! They have made me realise that actually life isn’t so serious, you don’t have to stress about little materialistic things. Suddenly the one thing that makes me happiest and the only one thing I need is for my family to be happy and healthy. Who cares if the house looks lived in, who cares that you missed that social event (which looks totally awesome in the pics on fb!!), who cares that you look completely worn out with chipped nail varnish, invisible eyebrows and bad hair. A worn out looking Mummy is doing her job well in my eyes!